In The Way of Explanation
Of course, it's been a wild month.
In the way of explanation, I'll be brief: my mom's cancer has returned, this time in the liver. The past seven weeks have been a blur of doctors and driving, labs and listening, chemo and coping, numbers and numbness, coordinating and communicating, help and hurt.
And it's also been a month of saying "no" ... a lot. No to lunch invitations. No to inquiries about speaking engagements. No to potential consulting. No to book marketing.
Because saying "no" to these things means I can say "yes" to my mom and my family right now... and I wouldn't have it any other way.
That's part of the ability to seize the accomplishment. It's called prioritizing. And prioritizing isn't about just putting things in order and trying to do them all. Prioritizing is about stamping various items with a "no" (or at least a polite "not yet"). Prioritizing is telling various things/opportunities/people that they are just not as important as other things/opportunities/people. Priorities are driven by values. They're driven by experience. They're driven by identity. They're driven by relationships. They're driven by insight.
The only outstanding question about YOUR priorities is whether they're being driven by YOU. You see, there are a lot of people out there who think they know what YOUR priorities should be better than YOU do. That's when you have to be tough and remember how to say "no." There are a lot of ways to say it; just find a way that works for you.
It's a new year, and I hope and pray 2011 is a happy and healthy year for all of you... and that it's well prioritized. It is, after all, something you control.